3 Steps to Take When Fear or Doubt Paralyzes you

A.B. - Mindful Words To Inspire
5 min readJan 28, 2021
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I’ve always wondered what living without worries and fears would feel like. I’ve always envied those who only worry when imminent danger is approaching, or in those moments when they need to act to protect themselves.

Part of me has always had worry or fear as a companion, and sadly it’s not something you can simply change easily. You can’t tell yourself to stop feeling emotions or thinking. The mind never listens to you, and it feels like that is its job to protect you. The mind exists for a purpose: to keep us safe, and that goes way back to our ancestors, who really had to live in a flight-and-flight mode in order to survive.

So when you feel safe, when you don’t have much to worry about, guess what happens. The mind reminds you that you have to think of something to protect yourself. It doesn’t mean to cause you any harm. It just wants to help.

Although we cannot change the content of our thoughts and the emotions we carry, we can change the way we approach them. Psychologists, spiritual teachers, monks have said it for decades: we have to learn to stay present.

However, for some the expression “stay present” can be an overrated concept. How can we stay present with suffering and fear without tearing our hair out?

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A.B. - Mindful Words To Inspire

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